Pam is a paralegal. Joyce sells exercise apparel as a home business. She always wears her wares as she shops. We always hug at least twice every time ...he comes in. This distance thing never entered our communication. I asked her one day if she was uncomfortable with that and her response was, “It’s bullshit, let’s just show them we don’t care." Slightly taken aback I said, “Well great. I’ll bring some wine out to the parking lot when I go to lunch in ten minutes, red or white?”“It’s only eleven. We seem to be on completely different planets.Everything was fine at the beginning of our marriage but this last yearmy wife's sexual needs have totally changed. Sex was always fine, but Iknow, when I'm by myself, with my imagination and desire it wasincredible. I also knew that my wife took care of herself plenty oftimes without needing me at all. My wife's 'new thing' all of a sudden,was big, tall black men. I was 5'8" tall and not black. We bought her aneight-inch black dildo, which she was. I knew I wasn’t gay, and wasn’t this a KISS? Everyone I know talks about kisses like they’re the most radical things on the planet, next to the Mighty Morphin Power Rangers, and yet there I was, feeling no different than I had four years ago as an awkward junior high schooler. In fact, I felt more awkward than I’d ever felt in my entire life, especially with Jeff gazing into my eyes as if we had just shared together a most magical moment. Surely there had to be so much more than this! Would. I had no car of my own, but occasionally could borrow one from my parents. My family belonged to the neighborhood summer swim club where I was on the swim team. There, I had met Bev who was also on the swim team. She was a few months older than me, and we had become very close friends. We attended different schools, so we saw each other a lot more in the summertime than during the school year. I attended a strict, private, Christian high-school; while she went to the local public high-school..