The ego defends against love, not fear. Pain in relationships can be perversely comfortable pain, in that is one we know. We’re used to it. I once h...ard a tape by Ram Dass, an American spiritual teacher, in which he told of seeing a newspaper article about an abused baby being taken away from his mother. As a police matron tried to take the baby, he kept struggling to remain in his mother’s arms. Although his mother was the one who beat him, she was the one he knew. He was used to her. He. ME:”Massi yeh toh aapki shorts hai, mai kaise pehan sakata hoon…aur yeh t shirt toh bahut choti hai mujhe nahi aayegi.”Massi”arre koi baat nahi sharmao matt…pink shorts pehan lene se tum ladki thodi he bann jaoge aur tumhe t shirt ki kya zarurat hai…bina t shirt ke karr lo”…I was feeling very awkward as I had never been in such situation, i couldn’t even deny her request because she had already brought the shorts and she being elder i respected her concern for me and agreed. Looking at her i. "Thank you, Kellen. 'S okay. And congratulations to you."Naturally, Slade found Kellen. After all, they WERE an item. "Slade, hon, d'ya remember Tina? Beginning of last year?" Kellen asked.Slade's brow knit. I'm thinking that last year Slade wasn't looking at Tina. Tina's cute enough, but she's not in the tier that held Slade's interest. "I think I remember," he said. "You and Nikki used to sit in the corner at lunch..."Kellen gathered HER guy against her. "And this is Mister Alan, Tina's. I said – then you tell me what I should do? For now, I’ll run my hand work.She said – Why do you have a girlfriend? Do something to him?I said – so that no time should be made a girlfriend and I’m currently paying attention to his career.She said – Let No matter what, you have me to do so sometimes my heart. It will lighten your mood and your attention will be divided.Then I asked – Brother so much work! Day and night are just trying to make money, it takes care of your very own.She heard this.