If they still can not come to terms with Swinging, youre not going to be a Swinger, you might as well get psychiatric help, or divorced. The best time...to introduce it to your spouse, is before you get married, give them the option to get out or venture further. I cant stress this enough, you must both be in agreement on this. After that said, you dont want to rush right out and find a couple or a single, you have to make sure that they also have the mindset for the Swinging lifestyle. I suggest. His grades were not terrible but he needed to pass geometry and chemistry to not go to summer school or fail sophomore year. One day during his study hall his dean Mr. Vantage called him down to his office to discuss his failing grades. While he was there he just tried to tune him out and all his yelling then all of a sudden he stopped ,looked at Jimmy stood up closed and locked his office door then sat back down and said this “ since you really need to pass sophomore year I’ll offer you this.”. Six days later, I came home and walked into the house. I stood agape as I looked around my home. The place looked cleaner, brighter, and the furniture had been nicely rearranged. There was a hominess about the place that I had never been able to achieve.Pat came out of the bathroom wearing rubber gloves, shorts, a t-shirt, flip-flops and carrying a bucket of cleaning paraphernalia, “Oh, hi, Robert. Welcome home. I was just freshening up the bathrooms.”“What have you been doing while I have been. Why is that?" I am not at all reluctant," I replied. "It is just that I was made aware the changes would disrupt the comfortable if limited existence that you have built for yourself. It calls upon you to face new challenges in your life. I want you to be aware of this before you make any decision. There is also the fact that from this point on if I reveal what was said to me I will be revealing things about the lives and feelings of others. If you then choose to stay as you are, then this.