I am a social drinker. on one time when i was having some begs alone in home, she called me for regular chat. as i am in a classick mood watching some...movies in tv i chatted with her freely and frankly. that made her to get closer to me. we had chatted nearly for 2 hours. by the end she cried out very much, she needed me worstly and asked me to come to her home next day as her husband is out of station for two days as a business meet in bombay.i coudnt ablr to sleep even i had consumed drinks.. I didn't lie, ofcourse, but there are ways of persuading people of your point of view,especially once you've figured out who you're dealing with. I'm prettygood at that, sussing out what people want and then giving them thedetails they expect. I had the courtroom hanging on every detail as Iexplained the how and the why of Tom and my race to the top of the officetower, and what we saw while hiding in that executive secretary's office.Perhaps I overdid it. I got carried away by my own eloquence.. ”What she then whispered in Helen’s ear, I couldn’t hear and she wasn’t telling.We visited Mum a couple of times more before Christmas was imminent, and the question with whom to spend the holiday was becoming urgent. After our contretemps over not mentioning me when she visited her parents, I thought it prudent not to bring the matter up.It was when we visited Mum in early December that Mum herself brought the matter up.“What are you two doing over Christmas?” she asked over our evening meal.. .. I think I lost Patty. She was with another guy. She was with a girl. I don't know what I did wrong." There was another long silence."Listen to your mother son. She will help you. Give it time. Patty will always be in your life. Don't refuse her friendship. Be honest with her. You've been telling her what she wants to hear. She deserves to know how you really feel." I... I don't want to hurt her." Worrying about hurting her and being afraid to tell her how you feel, isn't the same thing - is.