When she talks to people you would think she is carrying on an important world diplomatic discussion. Men fall over themselves to talk to her - class,...brains and beauty all in one." "Is your wife part of your sexual issues?" asked Dr. Johns. "Very much so. I am getting to that. Shortly after we were married. I began to have fantasies about Jan having sex with other men. The thoughts really turned me on. After awhile I told her about my fantasies. She was amused actually and begin asking me to. . she felt good, sensual, a little buzzed. Her body wanted to move. A few moments later she came to the startling realization that she had been slowly rocking back and forth like a cowgirl on the cushioned barstool, her tiny dress riding up her thighs. A man in a dark suit at the end of the bar may have noticed but she wasn't sure. She snapped out of it and stood up, feeling flustered and flushed. Julie became determined to find her friends and the comfort of familiar company.She found her best. My wife made her "patient face" while she cracked open a few pistachios from a bowl on the counter. It's the face she makes when she explains stuff to me. One last time: she's smarter than me."You see love, I've done a lot of thinking about our anal sex problem. I'm just never going to like it. At one point, I was even looking into hypnosis. But the idea of paying some psychiatrist to put me to sleep and convince me that I liked it in the ass seemed too weird to go through with it."She. Heather was besieged by attractive men. It was never just one guy. She talked and danced with ALL of them. And she rarely graced us with her presence. Our friends went from insulted, to cutting me pitying looks.Seriously though - what could I do? Her behavior was never overtly disloyal. She might dance with guys who were younger, fitter and better-looking than me. But there was never any actual romance. She just looked like she was having fun. And needless to say, she was happier than I could.