I had to go with the first. Since I asked him to dinner, maybe I had to also ask him to bed? Nothing to lose? Here goes.Turning towards him on the cou...h, I took his hand and started in, “Bill, I really liked dinner and your company. I have another request. I’ve been broken up with a boyfriend for two months and when you are in a relationship you get used to some things. I miss having a man to have dinner with and that’s why I asked you. I also miss having a man to sleep with and I’d like you to. V: only panty no bra.P: I don’t wear a bra while sleeping.V: ooh I want to feel youP: yes babyV: I want to make love to you.P: yes baby…I am missing you.V: baby I am holding my dick and its really hardP: oohhh baby show meV: yes baby ( sent a pic)P: oh its big …I want to hold itV: reallyP: yes baby I want to fuck. I am missing you.V: ooh babyP: what would you have done . If you would have been here.V: licked your neck kiss you get into your bed with youP: ooohhhh…I am loving itV: take off your. She allowed me to for a while butnever really accepted it and soon I stopped it, even though I carriedon in secret. She caught me several times with the ensuing rows.After a while, whenever we had an argument or any falling out shestarted throwing it back in my face and often becomes rude and abusive.However, as I had fathered four children it was not possible to doanything about it. I had considered leaving my wife and children andchanging over but my sense of responsibility and deep love of. Specific questionswill be handled through the FAQ, as it's more time efficient thanresponding one-on-one.In particular, many wives mentioned oral sex, finding thatactivity objectionable (no surprise there!). Some expressed doubtsuch activity would work and/or be the only alternative.The following paragraph appears above, presented here again assome seem to have missed it: "In the (highly) unlikely event the oral sex isn't the hubby's trigger here (more on "triggers" later) something.