Now he said I'm going to show you how to ride a mare that's stubborn and disobedient as he straddled her back she could feel his spurs digging into he... thighs as she was ordered to walk on faster he said as the spurs dug in deeper making her thighs burn the crop in his right hand cracked firmly on her ass and the sharp edge of the bit dug into her mouth as he urged her on faster and faster the crop constantly being cracked across her ass and thighs after twenty minutes that seemed more like. More than a few states and municipalities had enacted laws banning protests at funerals because of him, and Phelps and his church had been arrested more than a few times for disturbing the peace and other crimes. At least one lawsuit had made it to Federal Court, suing the Phelps family for emotional distress, and had been found in favor of the complainants; the Supreme Court had not yet taken it up. Phelps kept winning the lawsuits based on the First Amendment right of free speech.“So, what. I was surprised with the calmness and confidence in his voice. I then asked him to promise me that whatever happens between us remains between the both of us, he immediately agreed. So I asked him what his wife had to say about the morning tea till evening tea and all the meetings we had everyday except Sundays of course. He answered that she did not have a clue. I told him that this was going to land both of us in trouble if she found out. So he asked me to behave normally like I hardly know. "I agreed to come to visit when she got settled. That's what I did. I would fly to California every two months and stay for 2 to 3 weeks at a time. This went on for a year and a half. Then Sam got a big promotion.Sam didn't have as much time to spend with me after the promotion. She had to work late several nights until 11:00 or so; not every night, but at least once or twice a week. If we had been living together it wouldn't have been a problem, but I was only there for 7 to 10 days, so it was.