We had been chatting more and more, and several times had gone to the pub together, though I was drinking beer and she usually had a soft drink. So I ...sked her if I could buy her a drink for her birthday, and took her to the Student Bar. She had a rum and coke, and I stuck with beer. We sat down and I passed over the card. She opened it, read it, and said what a really nice card it was. Then, to my surprise, she leaned over and gave me a fleeting kiss on the cheek.I was walking on air. She was a chubby girl but very cute. To be honest, if she had been 20-30 pounds lighter she would have been a real stunner.At the time I met Jamie, I was also in really bad shape and overweight. We went out and saw a movie and had dinner. It was really nothing special other than a night for me to get out of my apartment. We talked a few times here and there afterwards but never made any solid plans to meet up again.A couple of months went by and I had managed to lose close to 40 pounds. I. She sees that the rules have been taken out of the frame. Plus, there is a fresh pile of paper next to them. Tim tells Abbie, “Take a seat, and add a rule sixteen to the list.” She does as Tim says, and he recites to her, “Number 16: Abigail will ‘play nice’ with others. Treat all with respect and kindness. Not belittling others or make them feel bad.”Abbie’s face is beet red, knowing she is very guilty of this. She writes as Tim dictates and then as he instructs, begins writing five. . After God only knows how long in limbo, my mind began to assimilate facts and information. Instead of being some kind of cosmic hitchhiker, drifting in eternity, my ... my ... well ... my essence, or my being ... my intelligence, if nothing else, was suddenly forming around a destination.The boundaries of time are only finite to the living. When you’re dead you go wherever your mind takes you, or the universe sends you. I’d been there and done that often enough to know.Now that I was.