But they were all the level of drunk where you just assume that everyone is like you, mostly because you imagine that it will make the night more fun....It was a big house party, one where I could have easily left if I wanted to without offending anybody, but for some reason I didn’t feel like making the entire bus trip back to my apartment by myself. My guy friend, Josh*, was one of the few people I knew well enough — and someone that I knew, without a doubt, would walk me home if I asked him. Feeling rather sheepish, I made myself a coffee. “I'll have one of those too please” said Mary from behind me. I made her a coffee and made to take mine back outside to my car.Mary grabbed my arm as I passed her. “stay and talk to me...please?” I hesitated, but then I sat down at the table opposite her, she talked for an hour or more. Her husband had filed for divorce, he’d been sleeping with mary’s best friend, and they were moving to California. This was all said with bouts of tears and more. When I was playing with my buddies during night time, a taxi halted and a married couple with a small kid got down they headed to the building where I used to stay. Then, my mom called me to come home and told me we have a new neighbor. In excitement I rushed towards my home, to my surprise the couple who I saw in taxi where sitting in my home. Mummy introduced me to them and the kid was a girl cute one. Then Uncle in his mid or early thirties and bhabhi maybe 30 yrs. Bhabhi was looking amazing. She already self-identified as dragon, and had her self-image ready to invest it’s righteous avatar. Since she couldn’t even wait, Xi decided to start. Achieving what she imagined was a dragonish mental state, she shifted the mental frames of self-reference.The beauty of self-shifting is that at some level, everyone decides who they really are for themselves, and it isn’t (much) affected by the objective reality consensus, as it is internalization of self.And it was done. Painless, as every.