What’s up?”I say, “Mom has a proposal for after the ‘distraction’, as she called it, is over.”Tim turned to Mom and she said, “Michele a...ked if I was still good with my decision. Of course I am. I am so excited about it. I just thought we need to do something special. I want us to go on a honeymoon. Tim, do you think you can get some time off after the divorce thing is over?”“Wow, am I in trouble.”I looked at Mom and we shrugged our shoulders. “What do you mean?”“Look at this. Now there are two. Right, we can begin to develop the skills of compassionate relationship. We stop judging people and start relating to them instead. We recognize, first and foremost, that we’re not in a relationship to focus on how well the other person is learning their lessons, but rather to focus on learning our own.The ego defends against love, not fear. Pain in relationships can be perversely comfortable pain, in that is one we know. We’re used to it. I once heard a tape by Ram Dass, an American spiritual. “Soooooo…..” Ruby started,”I am a bit short as my dick-head boyfriend spent it at the bookies!” I said this was now 5 weeks in a row that they were short and I was going to have to kick them out if they cannot get back on track. Ruby was looking at me and fiddling with her belt, her dressing gown becoming loose, her tattoo covered skin coming slowly into view. “Is there any way you’d give me a discount this month or let me off this month?” It was said with a husk and tone that put a sexual. ”I said, “Thank you, Mr. Johnson. We...”“Please, call me Jim.”“Thanks, Jim. We really like your daughter and look at her as both a friend and as a particularly good role model. You and your wife raised a young woman of which you’re right to be proud.”“I’m sad that her mother didn’t get to see the spectacular young woman she’s become. Please help Meka keep as positive an attitude as she can. I think she could do great things if she can get through this.”“We’re trying,” replied Rhee. “Beth.