And we found it. On the advice of Mizz Lillian, we went to a bluegrass festival and Tina found pure acoustic folk music to be something that meshed wi...h our love of classical music, and heaven knows, Tennessee has a lot of bluegrass.But Mizz Lillian. She saw the Alan 'n' Tina thing real quick. "You two look like you belong together," she'd told Tina one afternoon.Tina related that conversation to me that evening, and the next day, when I stopped in to retrieve my sweetie, she was sitting in her. She was an adult; she didn't belong to me and I had warned her. She looked at me and smiled. I just shook my head and walked away.As I mentioned this party was being held at a private lodge out in the country. It was a huge lodge with a lot of rooms. The only thing it was lacking was a sufficient number of restroom for this size crowd.They leased ten porta-potties for the party. They were out on the back of the premises away from the main lodge. I know I called it a frat party but that's just. My stomach queasy as I realized what I looked at, my worried expression clearly visible on my face."Don't worry honey; all you have to do is not get turned on. If this isn't something you like then I won't get very far." She held the sign in front of me and said "Oh, and I don't think I have to worry about the black part, I have not seen a white guy in the last 10 miles of or trip here. I guess we will just hope that they honor the big part."Just as she finished her statement I heard the door. He said her name, my current girlfriends name. I said no you mean J***, he says no N***. I told him thats the girl I'm still with and he justs starts laughing and my stomach just starts turning I knew something was wrong. I asked him what do you mean? Why are you laughing? He said I probably wouldn't want to hear about it but I pressed him and wanted to get what ever he knew out of him. He gave in eventually, it was then that he informed me that she was the girl that the football team use.