I had heard he had 2 daughters older than me, and was very surprised how they had grown up and looking really matured.Uncle and Aunty Rita introduced ...e to Gita and Minu. Gita was the elder one about 21 years old and Minu 20 years old. Gita had a great body, brown skin and overflowing breasts, in jeans and tee shirt, and Minu was like a tom boy great legs and fair skin, bob cut hair. Both shook hands with me I did shyly say hi to them. Rita aunty said to me you grown up too and looking good. I. "That was the start of it. Hal flirted with me every chance he got and even though I thought he was full of bullshit (don't forget I was still carrying around Jerry's "fat cow") I played along. One day when we were alone in the copy room he said:"One of these days I'm going to make you mine."I laughed and said, "Maybe some day, then again, maybe not." As soon as the words were out of my mouth I was aghast. I'd actually suggested that some day it might happen. And then came the thought that. " Be good to him. If he's right -- and it appears that he is -- you won't be seeing him again, once we're gone -- but that also goes for Nick and maybe your momma. If you have things to say, let's make sure you get them said." I'd missed that opportunity, myself, and it was painful. My parents were both gone..."I'm lucky, aren't I?" Rachel sniffled. "If I'd been in a regular pickup..." Yeah. Yeah, you are," I agreed. "Take advantage of it."What with the various family ruckuses, we didn't go. Right, we can begin to develop the skills of compassionate relationship. We stop judging people and start relating to them instead. We recognize, first and foremost, that we’re not in a relationship to focus on how well the other person is learning their lessons, but rather to focus on learning our own.The ego defends against love, not fear. Pain in relationships can be perversely comfortable pain, in that is one we know. We’re used to it. I once heard a tape by Ram Dass, an American spiritual.