James seemed to know how much to pushand how fast. He quickly integrated himself into Dani's family. Ourvisits to Aunt Carol's house or to her cousin,...Annette were opportunitiesto demonstrate my new role. James and Dani were always together. Theytalked of their plans, work and social activities as the couple theytruly were. While they socialized, I served the rest of the family. OftenDani put me in simple black outfits, that when paired with a white apron,and a lace hair bow, gave me the. "Come back over to *our* side!" "He's going to look pretty silly on your side with no pants," Sally said. "So!? It's a comedy! Men in dresses are funny." "But *he* ain't a man," Sally pointed out. "I am *so* a man! Just because I'm not the kind with a deep, loud voice that throws his bulk around, demanding things of the world, doesn't mean I'm not a man!" "No offense, Rob, but that speech would be more convincing, if you weren't 5' --", 3x-2x-3x," Sally said. "With 'The Greatest Legs in Show. 7. Blues can take place in New York City, but not in Hawaii or any place in Canada. Hard times in St. Paul or Tucson is just depression. Chicago, St. Louis, and Kansas City still the best places to have the Blues. You cannot have the blues in any place that don’t get rain.8. A man with male pattern baldness ain’t the blues. A woman with male pattern baldness is. Breaking your leg cuz you skiing is not the blues. Breaking your leg cuz a’ alligator be chompin’ on it is.9. You can’t have no Blues. This was always in private. She never demeaned me in public. I was glad for that at least. When speaking to me privately, she never used words like, ‘please’ or ‘I would you like to…’. She addressed her needs as simply ‘Jon, you should or must do this or that.’ Now I didn’t mind doing most of what she requested but I increasingly hated not being asked and just being told what to do. I would have done it anyway, like helping around the house or checking our (her) car’s tires for air pressure..