Now, I had just felt a disquieting presence in the mall that was very similar to a presence I felt one time at the base hospital when I was in a coma....hat did these add up to? I wasn't sure.I was sitting down, lost in my thoughts, when I "heard" somebody think "Life is grand, isn't it?"I knew that thought-voice. It was Mary's! I looked up and around, and finally saw her about 200 meters away from me. I got up and walked toward her.When she saw me, she rushed toward me and gave me a big hug. I. "Where is she Jim? I've been on tenterhooks all night, don't keep me waiting any longer." Whoa there Mama, Allie doesn't know about this yet so let's play it by ear OK?" Yes, of course Jim, it's just that I'm so excited. Since Joey grew up I've been a bit of a lost soul. The mother instinct in me needs nourishing and I hope this Allison is my salvation." That's all well and good Mama but consider what went wrong when you over indulged Joey, I would hate to see the same thing happen with. ..” Heather was pretty amazed to see us.“Hello,” I said, “we wondered if we could have a talk?”She had to let us in of course, and when we didn’t really say anything she had to offer to make tea, and then sit us down in her living room. She looked at me. I don’t think she’s had children. She’s fairly tall, and carrying a bit, but has quite a sweet face. And Dad likes her, or loves her.“We’re sorry we’ve been horrid to you,” I said, “we’ve come to explain, and offer you ... a deal.”“A deal?”“The. "Both identity states will participate fully in the process, and you will begin acting cooperatively outside of these sessions. The trading is one instance of the cooperation I'm requesting. In return for you agreeing to the resumption of the trading, your other identity state will agree to cede control to you during any future family visits where sexual contact isn't going to be a part of the visit." What about when it is a part of a visit?" Shared presence and control, with a promise of no.